Cream pants on day one of your period is bold 💥 that is evidence in itself that you’re stronger than you think!!
I’ve always identified as a “mood dresser” - letting my mood dictate my outfits. But now I’m more of a “field of dreams dresser” - as in build it and they shall come. Some days are really hard, and dressing for the vibes I WANT vs the vibes I’m supplying actually makes a big difference to my mental health.
Thanks for sharing this - what you wrote about exceeding the socially acceptable time were allotted to grieve really resonated with me. It'll be a year in May since my father died. And it hits me daily, like a punch to the gut. And yet I hide my feelings bc I feel like they are burdensome.
Routines do help, and I'm so thankful for the things in my life that get me out of my head. And for clothes (lol) and how they can provide the blanket of protection we need on any given day. Thanks for your vulnerability and willingness to share. Sending hugs!
A year in May. I know that timeline so well, that specific kind of anticipatory grief before an anniversary. And the punch to the gut feeling, yes, exactly that.
You're not burdensome here. I think that's actually part of why I started writing this, so there could be a place where that stuff doesn't have to be tidied away. Sending you so much love as May approaches.
Loved this because that’s the reality of getting dressed each day. It’s more than the pieces and brands in your closet but rather how they are being used to move through the days of being human.
Oh, this is so perfect for me right now. Last week I lost my mother and my cat— separate events but they hit together. All of the varied emotions and responses make so much sense. Thinking of you in your grief as I thank you for helping to process mine.
2019 was a tough year for me. I lost both my father and brother and remember praying for time to pass so that the grief wasn’t so painful. It gets better my friend. I can promise you that.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I think getting dressed always helps me with my mood. Grief is a sneaky one and seems to always hit when you least except it. I haven’t lost a parent or anyone really close, but can say losing my dog last year crushed me in ways I didn’t know it would and that is grief people don’t always understand so I totally feel what you’re saying on the allotted time allowed. There is no “right” amount of time to grieve. It never leaves, you simply learn to live with it better. Hugs to you!
I’ve been struggling to get dressed since my dad’s terminal cancer diagnosis in early February. Some of it is really struggling to give a shit (and the kind of WFH where I can throw on a nice top ten minutes before a client session and otherwise not get dressed all day), and some of it is that I’m used to using clothes to reach for the mood that I want. Figuring out how to dress to support myself through a mood I’m kinda stuck with feels new. I find myself reaching for the same kinds of clothes I reach for on a high pain day: extremely soft but substantial. More flowy and draped than usual. Minimal or no jewelry, like my senses just can’t take another thing on my body. It’s got me scouting for trouser sweatpants, which was not a niche I (knew I?) needed before.
Cream pants on day one of your period is bold 💥 that is evidence in itself that you’re stronger than you think!!
I’ve always identified as a “mood dresser” - letting my mood dictate my outfits. But now I’m more of a “field of dreams dresser” - as in build it and they shall come. Some days are really hard, and dressing for the vibes I WANT vs the vibes I’m supplying actually makes a big difference to my mental health.
Sooo true about the pants. And I love fields of dreams dresser. Wow. Thanks for sharing that.
Wow. Yes to this but also only as much as feels right for you. Thank you for the gift.
Thank you for reading!
Thanks for sharing this - what you wrote about exceeding the socially acceptable time were allotted to grieve really resonated with me. It'll be a year in May since my father died. And it hits me daily, like a punch to the gut. And yet I hide my feelings bc I feel like they are burdensome.
Routines do help, and I'm so thankful for the things in my life that get me out of my head. And for clothes (lol) and how they can provide the blanket of protection we need on any given day. Thanks for your vulnerability and willingness to share. Sending hugs!
A year in May. I know that timeline so well, that specific kind of anticipatory grief before an anniversary. And the punch to the gut feeling, yes, exactly that.
You're not burdensome here. I think that's actually part of why I started writing this, so there could be a place where that stuff doesn't have to be tidied away. Sending you so much love as May approaches.
Big hugs to you. Thank you for being vulnerable. It’s so massive, losing a parent. The grief is like a massive wave when it hits.
My dad died in 2014 and I still miss him so much.
Mine in 2013 and same.
Sucks to be a part of this club. Sending you so much love
Loved this because that’s the reality of getting dressed each day. It’s more than the pieces and brands in your closet but rather how they are being used to move through the days of being human.
"Moving through the days of being human". I love how you put that, honestly that's exactly it. Thank you for getting it so completely.
Sending you so much love.
Thank you, friend <3
This was really beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes I really appreciate a comfort/protection outfit.
Thank you for reading!
Love you, Sis.
Love you too!
I felt so inspired to be more vocal with my own grief. Thank you for sharing and for being vulnerable❤️.
Thank you for reading and being here
You almost didn’t write this, but I’m so glad you did. Waves do, in fact, eventually bring us up.
Getting dressed was one of the only things I could control after my dad died, and a major reason I started writing here.
Thank you for sharing this honest outfit diary. Grief really does have a way of pulling the rug out from under you, doesn’t it?
❤️❤️ take your time riding the waves
Oh, this is so perfect for me right now. Last week I lost my mother and my cat— separate events but they hit together. All of the varied emotions and responses make so much sense. Thinking of you in your grief as I thank you for helping to process mine.
2019 was a tough year for me. I lost both my father and brother and remember praying for time to pass so that the grief wasn’t so painful. It gets better my friend. I can promise you that.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I think getting dressed always helps me with my mood. Grief is a sneaky one and seems to always hit when you least except it. I haven’t lost a parent or anyone really close, but can say losing my dog last year crushed me in ways I didn’t know it would and that is grief people don’t always understand so I totally feel what you’re saying on the allotted time allowed. There is no “right” amount of time to grieve. It never leaves, you simply learn to live with it better. Hugs to you!
I’ve been struggling to get dressed since my dad’s terminal cancer diagnosis in early February. Some of it is really struggling to give a shit (and the kind of WFH where I can throw on a nice top ten minutes before a client session and otherwise not get dressed all day), and some of it is that I’m used to using clothes to reach for the mood that I want. Figuring out how to dress to support myself through a mood I’m kinda stuck with feels new. I find myself reaching for the same kinds of clothes I reach for on a high pain day: extremely soft but substantial. More flowy and draped than usual. Minimal or no jewelry, like my senses just can’t take another thing on my body. It’s got me scouting for trouser sweatpants, which was not a niche I (knew I?) needed before.
Thanks for sharing this <3